5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

No, it won’t ruin your anal muscles.

Paisley Gilmour – Cosmopolitan – 29/08/2017

Rumours about anal sex fly around like wildfire from the moment you come to learn what sex is. I remember a school friend telling me to never, ever, under any circumstances, have anal sex because my vagina and butt could become one giant hole. Others expect anal play will result in a mass poo explosion, which forever ruins their delicate b-hole in the process, but all these ridiculous rumours are anything but true. Alicia Sinclair, CEO of b-Vibe explains why these 5 most common (and sometimes harmful) myths surrounding anal sex are actually total BS.

1. It’s not pleasurable for women OR they just do it to keep men happy

This myth is so disempowering to women. The common narrative goes like this: women don’t like anal sex, it’s something that straight men want of them, and if it ever ends up happening, women are often coerced into it, or agree to do it just for the sake of fulfilling that “male fantasy”. Well, that’s simply wrong.

The idea that women don’t enjoy anal sex takes away their sexual agency as beings with their own sexual desires and complex sexuality. There are several reasons why anal play can feel pleasurable in the female body.

It’s important to mention that the clitoris is more than what you see on the outside (think tip of the iceberg). It’s shaped like a wishbone and for many, it extends all the way down to the anus. Surprisingly, it’s possible to stimulate the clitoral “legs” through anal play. Since the clitoris has over 9000 nerve endings, that’s a lot of potential for pleasure.

Anal orgasms can also happen through indirect stimulation of the erogenous zones inside the vagina. The G-spot and A-spot, are key places for pleasurable stimulation through the shared wall between the vagina and rectum.

And don’t forget the potential for exterior anal pleasure; There are tons of nerve endings located at the entry of the bum. Hence the reason why people of all genders enjoy “rimming”. b-Vibe even created a Rimming Butt Plug to replicate this very sensation.

2. Straight men don’t like it

One of the great things about anal play is that folks of any gender and orientation can enjoy it. However, a lot of men express fear about receiving anal pleasure.

The most important thing about anal play for men is that the sensations and experiences that feel good to you have nothing to do with your sexual orientation or gender. It’s kind of like how the food that you enjoy is totally different from who you want to have dinner with.

ogical perspective, the prostate can only really be stimulated through the anal canal. The P-spot is a lot like the G-spot in women. A lot of men report that orgasms that come from prostate stimulation feel bigger, more expansive, or more full-body.

3. It will hurt

Sadly, many people associate anal play with pain due to a previous bad experience or lack of understanding on how to make anal play enjoyable

Pleasurable anal sex is 90% preparation, and that includes getting mentally prepared. That’s even truer if you’ve had uncomfortable or painful experiences in the past because your body will expect the same thing again, which makes the anus tighten up.

There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good. One of the most common ones is a stingy or friction sensation. That’s because there isn’t enough lubricant, so you’ll want to add a little more. Don’t tolerate or endure the discomfort because all that does it make your body tighten up more. Adding more lube will make it feel much better, so don’t hesitate. That’s especially important if there’s a lot of in and out motion.

Going from zero to penis is a no-no. The anal sphincter is strong, yet delicate. It’s best if you start small, with something like fingers, and then work your way towards something larger such as a butt plug. A small vibrating butt plug, like this Novice Plug is a great option because it’s about the size of a finger and is a good transition from fingers to toys. The amazing thing about vibration is that it’s not only a pleasurable sensation, but it also relaxes muscles.

4. You’ll poop/ it’s messy

Anal hygiene is one of the most common concerns that people have about anal play. Fortunately, it isn’t difficult to manage and actual “pooping” during the act is extremely rare. However, you may find that poop is transferred to fingers, a sex toy, or penis, if you haven’t taken any steps to rinse out the anal canal.

At minimum, to prevent any poop appearance, I always suggest a bowel movement and shower before your anal adventure.

If you want more insurance that your play time will be clean, enema bulbs are often the easiest way to do this. It’s best to complete this process at least an hour beforehand. You can try a reusable one, or you can use a disposable enema (available at any pharmacy).

5. It weakens your anal muscles and can permanently damage your body

One of the common misconceptions is that anal sex will weaken or damage the anal muscles. While it is possible to hurt yourself if you aren’t paying attention to what you’re doing or if you’re forcing your body (or your partner’s body) to do something that doesn’t feel good, the overwhelming majority of people having anal sex will not experience any permanent damage to their body.

Incontinence is typically the main concern regarding damage. This is specific to the common belief that the anal sphincter muscles become weakened. There’s no evidence to support this and odds are that if you follow the correct steps, all your butt stuff will continue to work just fine.

Another worry could be physical trauma to the anus. Small micro-tears inside the rectum are relatively common during anal sex, just small micro-tears occur inside the vagina during vaginal sex. These small tears usually heal quickly and have no long-term effect on the body.

Read More at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a12118612/anal-sex-myths/

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……


Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

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