5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

5 anal sex myths that are totally wrong

No, it won’t ruin your anal muscles.

Paisley Gilmour – Cosmopolitan – 29/08/2017

Rumours about anal sex fly around like wildfire from the moment you come to learn what sex is. I remember a school friend telling me to never, ever, under any circumstances, have anal sex because my vagina and butt could become one giant hole. Others expect anal play will result in a mass poo explosion, which forever ruins their delicate b-hole in the process, but all these ridiculous rumours are anything but true. Alicia Sinclair, CEO of b-Vibe explains why these 5 most common (and sometimes harmful) myths surrounding anal sex are actually total BS.

1. It’s not pleasurable for women OR they just do it to keep men happy

This myth is so disempowering to women. The common narrative goes like this: women don’t like anal sex, it’s something that straight men want of them, and if it ever ends up happening, women are often coerced into it, or agree to do it just for the sake of fulfilling that “male fantasy”. Well, that’s simply wrong.

The idea that women don’t enjoy anal sex takes away their sexual agency as beings with their own sexual desires and complex sexuality. There are several reasons why anal play can feel pleasurable in the female body.

It’s important to mention that the clitoris is more than what you see on the outside (think tip of the iceberg). It’s shaped like a wishbone and for many, it extends all the way down to the anus. Surprisingly, it’s possible to stimulate the clitoral “legs” through anal play. Since the clitoris has over 9000 nerve endings, that’s a lot of potential for pleasure.

Anal orgasms can also happen through indirect stimulation of the erogenous zones inside the vagina. The G-spot and A-spot, are key places for pleasurable stimulation through the shared wall between the vagina and rectum.

And don’t forget the potential for exterior anal pleasure; There are tons of nerve endings located at the entry of the bum. Hence the reason why people of all genders enjoy “rimming”. b-Vibe even created a Rimming Butt Plug to replicate this very sensation.

2. Straight men don’t like it

One of the great things about anal play is that folks of any gender and orientation can enjoy it. However, a lot of men express fear about receiving anal pleasure.

The most important thing about anal play for men is that the sensations and experiences that feel good to you have nothing to do with your sexual orientation or gender. It’s kind of like how the food that you enjoy is totally different from who you want to have dinner with.

ogical perspective, the prostate can only really be stimulated through the anal canal. The P-spot is a lot like the G-spot in women. A lot of men report that orgasms that come from prostate stimulation feel bigger, more expansive, or more full-body.

3. It will hurt

Sadly, many people associate anal play with pain due to a previous bad experience or lack of understanding on how to make anal play enjoyable

Pleasurable anal sex is 90% preparation, and that includes getting mentally prepared. That’s even truer if you’ve had uncomfortable or painful experiences in the past because your body will expect the same thing again, which makes the anus tighten up.

There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good. One of the most common ones is a stingy or friction sensation. That’s because there isn’t enough lubricant, so you’ll want to add a little more. Don’t tolerate or endure the discomfort because all that does it make your body tighten up more. Adding more lube will make it feel much better, so don’t hesitate. That’s especially important if there’s a lot of in and out motion.

Going from zero to penis is a no-no. The anal sphincter is strong, yet delicate. It’s best if you start small, with something like fingers, and then work your way towards something larger such as a butt plug. A small vibrating butt plug, like this Novice Plug is a great option because it’s about the size of a finger and is a good transition from fingers to toys. The amazing thing about vibration is that it’s not only a pleasurable sensation, but it also relaxes muscles.

4. You’ll poop/ it’s messy

Anal hygiene is one of the most common concerns that people have about anal play. Fortunately, it isn’t difficult to manage and actual “pooping” during the act is extremely rare. However, you may find that poop is transferred to fingers, a sex toy, or penis, if you haven’t taken any steps to rinse out the anal canal.

At minimum, to prevent any poop appearance, I always suggest a bowel movement and shower before your anal adventure.

If you want more insurance that your play time will be clean, enema bulbs are often the easiest way to do this. It’s best to complete this process at least an hour beforehand. You can try a reusable one, or you can use a disposable enema (available at any pharmacy).

5. It weakens your anal muscles and can permanently damage your body

One of the common misconceptions is that anal sex will weaken or damage the anal muscles. While it is possible to hurt yourself if you aren’t paying attention to what you’re doing or if you’re forcing your body (or your partner’s body) to do something that doesn’t feel good, the overwhelming majority of people having anal sex will not experience any permanent damage to their body.

Incontinence is typically the main concern regarding damage. This is specific to the common belief that the anal sphincter muscles become weakened. There’s no evidence to support this and odds are that if you follow the correct steps, all your butt stuff will continue to work just fine.

Another worry could be physical trauma to the anus. Small micro-tears inside the rectum are relatively common during anal sex, just small micro-tears occur inside the vagina during vaginal sex. These small tears usually heal quickly and have no long-term effect on the body.

Read More at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a12118612/anal-sex-myths/

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

The amount of sex you should be having according to your age group

The amount of sex you should be having according to your age group

Revealed: The amount of sex you should be having according to your age group (so how does YOUR love life measure up?)

  • Study conducted by Kinsey Institute for research in Sex, Reproduction & Gender
  • Found that age is a key predictor for regularity of sex
  • People under 30 typically have sex twice a week, and it’s 1.6 times in your 30s
  • Those aged 40 to 50 have sex an average of less than once a week  

Siofra Brennan – Mailonline – 18/08/2017

Whether the fire of passion is well and truly burning in your relationship, or you only manage intimacy, you’ve probably found yourself wondering if the regularity of your sex life is ‘normal’.

Now you can find out, thanks to a study from the Kinsey Institute for research in Sex, Reproduction and Gender which has been recirculated, according to Medical Daily.

Researchers found that you can tell how your sex life measures up to others, according to your age, which is one of the main predictors for how often you get intimate with your partner.

It will probably be no surprise that younger people are having the most action with those aged 18 to 29 having sex an average of 112 times a year, or twice weekly.

Between the ages of 30 and 39, it drops to 86 times annually or 1.6 times a week.

And sexual activity tails off even further for 40 to 49-year-olds have half the amount of sex of their 20-something counterparts, making love 69 times a year.

‘The basic storyline that has emerged from these studies is that, as we get older, our odds of developing chronic health conditions increases and this, in turn, negatively impacts the frequency and quality of sexual activity,’ Dr. Justin Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute explained.

Surprisingly, the study did not go beyond those in their 50s and beyond, which appears to back up separate research which found that sexuality among older people is largely ignored.

Researchers from the University of Manchester analysed written comment from more than a thousand adults aged 50 to 90 to highlighted the obstacles some older couples face in maintaining and fulfilling their sexual lives.

Many were reporting signs of anxiety as doctors refused to address their drop in sexual desire or physical difficulties, they found.

Men were discovered to be more likely to discuss the impact of health conditions on their sexual activities.

Heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes are all causes of impotence among men.

But women had a higher chance of discussing health-related sexual difficulties in the context of a relationship.

Experts recommend practitioners should positively engage with issues of sexual function – regardless of age.

They believe proactively talking about their issues will help to improve both health and well-being in older patients.

HOW DOES YOUR SEX LIFE MEASURE UP?

18 – 29 years = Twice a week

30-39 years = 1.6 times a week

40-49 years = Less than once a week

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4799612/The-sex-having-according-age.html#ixzz4qZeaE661
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6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

How to turn first time sex into a success!

How to turn first time sex into a success!

How to turn first time sex into a success! The crucial move EVERY woman should master in order to impress their man and keep him interested for good

  • Tracey Cox reveals her step by step guide to sleeping with a new partner  
  • Says that giving your man great oral is the key to impressing them the first time 
  • Recommends investing in some new lingerie and says it’s OK to fake an orgasm 

Tracey Cox – Mailonline – 16/08/2017

First time sex with someone you’ve just hooked up with on Tinder isn’t a big deal but having sex with someone you really like is.

You’re both eager to impress, wanting to be the best lover each other’s ever had – and also anxious something will go wrong.

Will my body be good enough? How will I compare to their ex? What if I’m rubbish in bed? What if (Dear God!) I smell?

But your panics are nothing compared to his: his bits are on show, yours aren’t!

How does all this translate in the bedroom (or hallway or on the sofa)? Not terribly well, quite frankly (especially for him).

But there is a way to make your first time great, no matter what happens.  (This guide is aimed at straight couples but works equally well no matter what combination you’re in.) Here goes…

Do it when you’re ready

Not when your friends think it’s time or it’s the third date and that’s when you’re supposed to do it or you’re worried they’ll move on if you don’t.

First time sex is always slightly awkward but it’s going to be even more so if it’s way too soon. You also need to have thought about contraception and safe sex.

He might well be the future love of your life but that doesn’t mean you won’t wake up with a painful blister on your what-not or pregnant.

Do it somewhere you feel comfortable

If you know it’s getting to the point where you’ll be having full sex, take control of where it’s going to happen.

If it’s at your place, you can set the scene…a little.

Too much styling looks contrived but you can make sure there are crisp, clean sheets on the bed, some personal lube and condoms in the bedside drawer and maybe music ready to go if you’re both feeling shy.

Get the lighting right

If you think you look good, you’ll be far more confident about showing off your bod.

Lighting from below is the most flattering (tea lights on saucers works a treat) but at the very least dim the lights.

If they can’t be dimmed and the thought of exposing your body under bright neon makes you feel faint, turn off the light and turn on the lights in adjoining rooms.

There’s never a better time to splash out on some sexy lingerie

If your first time has happened spontaneously and you’ve got your big old grey knickers on, don’t panic! Just get them off fast and kick them out of sight.

But if it’s planned, first time sex is THE time to pull out all the stops with gorgeous lingerie.

Tailor the underwear to suit the type of sex you’d like to have: saucy if you’re planning something lusty and erotic, delicate and pretty if you want your first time to be romantic.

Don’t be scared to leave your underwear on either. It’s sometimes sexier to leave things on (your push-up bra, your heels) than let him see you completely naked immediately.

At least wait a while before you get totally undressed. Do anything but follow the usual format of him removing your bra first, then knickers.

If you’re self-conscious about exposing your stomach, wear a silk camisole or sexy vest top and leave it on along with the bra.

If you’re nervous, admit it

It will ease the tension for both of you – especially one or both of you have come out of long-term relationships.

Say, ‘I haven’t had sex with anyone but James/Jasmine for years. I feel like a teenager.’

They’ll thank you for it: they also feel like they have to measure up to a standard set by your ex or the last person you had regular sex with – and that’s difficult when they’ve had practice runs.

Don’t skip the foreplay

Once you’re set on having penetrative sex, there’s an inclination to skip the foreplay and head straight for it. Don’t. Tease it out even more than you have before.

Being aroused is necessary for you to enjoy sex and the more turned on you both are, the more you’ll stop worrying unnecessarily.

Don’t feel like you have to perform like a show pony

You don’t have to show off all your carnal talents that very first time.

Keep a few of your signature sex tricks saved up for later – but don’t hold back on showing him one killer move.

It might be an amazing erotic massage you give or removing your clothes with the finesse of a stripper.

It might be as simple as the swirl or a tongue or a long, tortuous tease as you tell him exactly what you’re about to do, as you do it.

Think it through beforehand (read some of my blogs on traceycox.com on specific techniques and tricks if you’re stuck) and do at least one unusual, unexpected thing.

Don’t just lie there

Lying back and letting him take over is what most women do the first time around.

If he’s really nervous and you think it’s giving him confidence by doing this, by all means do it.

But letting him do all the work while you basically stay passive, motionless and silent, will make him think you’re either lazy or super traditional in bed.

Don’t overreact to any penis problems

First time sex is charged with expectations and he’s under pressure to both get a strong erection, maintain it and not orgasm too soon.  It’s stressful owning a penis, so be kind.

It’s normal for him to either premature ejaculate or have an erection that seems to be up one minute and down the next.

Either ignore it and continue what you’re doing until it returns or ask him to focus on you for a while to take the pressure off.

Be light-hearted about any wobbles and he’ll know you’re a grown-up, not an immature girl who doesn’t understand male anatomy.

How you react to any penis issues predicts how good sex will be for the two of you in the future.

Over-react and you’ll be guaranteed the problem is even worse next time around (if there is one).

Don’t take it personally if things go wrong

Most women take it as a compliment if he finishes too fast because it’s an obvious sign of excitement. But don’t take it personally if he can’t rise to the occasion.

I counselled one man who had no problems getting an erection for casual sex but the minute he met someone he liked, forget it. It’s not uncommon.

‘Without fail, each and every woman thought it was because I didn’t find her sexually attractive,’ he told me.

‘But it was the opposite! The sexier she was and the more I liked her, the more pressured I felt.

‘I was fine after a month or so but only if she didn’t make a big deal out of it.’

Stick to a basic position

Not only because you don’t know each other’s bodies yet but also because manoeuvring them into a hugely challenging position makes you look like a show off.

Ditto switching into a new position every few minutes – it’s too try hard.

What isn’t, is adjusting yourself so it’s hitting the spot or turning him over so you end up on top or on bottom.

Give positive feedback

Later on you can direct all you want but I’d stick to very basic requests the first time around (and if you can achieve what you want by subtly moving his hand/mouth rather than verbally directing, even better).

The first time is all about finally immersing yourself in each other and enjoying the intimacy and passion.

Plenty of time later to let them know specifically what you need. Which leads me rather nicely to another dilemma…

Should you fake orgasm if you don’t have a real one?

Contrary to the first sex scenes in films, most women don’t have an orgasm the first time they have full sex with someone.

Lots of women rarely or never orgasm with a partner. The question is: do you pretend you did to give their confidence a boost?

You’d be surprised how many women do fake it the first time they sleep with someone.

Even women who never fake it under other circumstances are tempted to do it the first time purely because you both want sex to be perfect.

Most sex therapists say it’s fine to fake it now and then, so long as your partner knows how to give you an orgasm. But you don’t know if it’s your first time, right?

If you do decide it’s the right thing to do to fake it first time, just make sure you fairly quickly start giving (subtle and tactful) clear direction so orgasms are a part of future sex.

Resist the urge to ask ‘How did I do?’

Even if you were nothing short of spectacular, he might not say ‘Wow! That was great’ or (even better) ‘Wow, you were great!’ Why not?

Because he’s too busy worrying about what you thought.

The better you were, the more nervous he is about what you thought about his performance.

Even if you weren’t that confident, he’ll still be worrying. If you want reassurance, try giving a compliment first.

Snuggle into him and simply say, ‘Well that didn’t disappoint’ or ‘I knew that would be amazing.’

If it was awful, admit it and laugh

Yes I did just say only give positive feedback but if it’s really obvious things didn’t go to plan, you’re better off acknowledging it.

Say, ‘Well that was a bit of a disaster but it was going to be because we’re both nervous! Thank God it’s out of the way. Now we can relax and really get to know each other.’

It doesn’t mean you’re incompatible sexually if you didn’t lubricate or orgasm or if he couldn’t get an erection, lost it or climaxed too quickly.

It doesn’t mean the sex is going to be awful or that you should have stuck it out with your ex. It just means you don’t know each other’s bodies, desires or needs yet.

Sex isn’t an exam. You’re not going to get graded pass or fail (and if it feels like you are, you’re with the wrong person).

Perfect sex happens in movies; normal people muddle through the first time.

HOW TO GIVE THE BEST ORAL: A STEP BY STEP GUIDE

You be the first to head south

Initiating oral sex, without him having to hopefully push your head in that direction, sends very positive signals.

It shows you’re willing to give and receive pleasure. It tells him you’re not squeamish about bodily fluids.

The biggest brownie point of all though is that you won’t be leaving it up to him to make all the moves.

Give him great oral

Follow this up with seriously good technique and he’s yours forever.

Start licking before you take his jeans or trousers off. With a really firm tongue, lick through the fabric and once you’ve peeled those off, his underwear.

Use the flat of your tongue against the material, slithering the fabric around the shaft.

Don’t dive for the prize

Even if he’s already aroused, don’t dive on his penis.

Lick your way there, bypassing the goodies, back up the inner thigh, until he’s straining for attention.

Choose a position where you can use two hands – one to hold him, the other to caress other parts. Make eye contact or tell him to watch you.

Also make sure he can see the action by leaving the lights on, doing it in daylight and either tying your hair back or getting him to hold it back.

Then either dispense a long, lollipop lick (holding the base and working from the bottom to the top slowly) or take the whole of him inside in one, smooth, practised movement.

Let him know you want the favour returned

Letting him know you both expect and want the gesture reciprocated is also important.

It lets him know you aren’t afraid to ask for what you want and it lets him know your orgasm is as important as his.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4792620/Tracey-Cox-turn-time-sex-success.html#ixzz4qTVTzPlH
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6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

8 Ways to Use a Vibrator During Sex

8 Ways to Use a Vibrator During Sex

8 Ways to Use a Vibrator During Sex

Bet you’ve never thought of some of these.

Bethany Heitman – Cosmopolitan – 14/08/2017

Vibrators are the shit. Yep, they can definitely increase your chances of orgasming solo or during sex, but there are tons of other ways to make use of them with a partner. To get the DL on the awesome sensations a vibe can bring, here, Athena Bradford, PhD, author of The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to Vibrators, and Susan Crain Bakos, author of The Sex Bible, offer some of their best tips.

1. Start on a slow setting.

And use the tip to circle your nipples and then your partner’s. As you circle, turn up the speed. Alternate between using the vibrator and sucking each other’s nipples: the back-and-forth and the heat from your lips feel amazing.

2. Go remote.

With a Bluetooth or Wi-Fi-enabled option, you can wear a vibrator internally and have your partner take the controls for your toy’s speed and tempo. Or you can both wear one and blow a fuse driving each other crazy.

3. During oral.

If you’re going down on someone with a penis, hold the side of your vibe against your cheek as you go in and out. The wetness of your mouth paired with the gentle rumbles will feel unexpected and arousing.

4. Turn it down low.

Try using it externally on each other, with both you and your partner still wearing underwear. This is a really hot warm-up to test the waters of how they might react if using a sex toy is new for them — probably likely if your partner is a dude. Try rubbing it up and down the outline of his shaft, and he can try little circles on your vulva and around your clitoral area.

5. While they’re going down on you.

Have your partner put the vibrator inside you angled slightly toward your belly button. The combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm.

6. Give your partner total control

of the toy, and let them use it on you during penetration. Have your partner lie on their back, then get on top and lie so your back is against their chest. The entire front of your body is revealed, and they can reach around and trail the vibrator from your breasts to your clitoris.

7. Stimulate the perineum

— the small patch of skin between his balls and anus. It’s super sensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped model (it’s good to start small if it’s someone’s first time), and whip it out while you’re on top. As you ride him, reach behind and hold it against that area.

8. Put a ring on it.

If your partner is a little hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start him off slowly with a vibrating ring (Trojan and Durex make them, and they’re available at the drugstore). It’s a silicone ring you can slip around his penis that has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of his penis, and if he’s on top, it’ll hit your clitoris as he thrusts.

Read More at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a3367/how-to-use-a-vibrator-during-sex/

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

Masturbated

9 Masturbation Secrets Guys Will Never Tell You

9 Masturbation Secrets Guys Will Never Tell You

Maybe don’t sit on that chair.

Frank Kobola – Cosmopolitan – 14/08/2017

1. What they last masturbated to.

If a guy looks you in the eyes and answers this question directly, he is either the most courageous or most insane man on the planet. Also consider that there are some questions you don’t want the answer to. Even if he were to look you dead in the eyes and confess that he cranks it to cartoon unicorn porn, are you really better off knowing that? Does that improve your life in any way?

2. How they’ve masturbated.

If you think guys just use their hands and some lube, you’re wrong. That’s certainly the most common way, but guys have tried tons of other weird ways to get off. Couch cushions may have been involved. I’ve said too much already.

3. How often they masturbate.

Some guys masturbate a lot, some dudes only masturbate a little. But it’s unlikely you’ll get an honest answer, if you get one at all.

4. How they cleaned up.

Hopefully they have a few tissues handy. Otherwise they could wind up finishing in their hand or on their shirt. Maybe they wound up accidentally shooting their load across the room, and now they can’t find it. He is afraid you might love him less if you knew the truth.

5. How long it takes.

Maybe they can bang it out so quickly and efficiently it’s embarrassing. Maybe it’s more of an event and he relaxes and really takes his time. Either way, he’ll never tell you.

6. His porn browsing habits.

Does he just dive right into whatever he sees on the front page of his favorite porn site? Does he seek out specific genres or porn stars? Does he queue up a bunch of options in case the first few are a letdown? Does he need to get some of the context to the situation, or does he just jump straight to the sex? The options are endless and may remain a buried secret for all eternity.

7. When they last masturbated.

It was probably five minutes ago.

8. Where they masturbated.

Don’t think their JO sessions are limited to just the bed. If they live alone, they’ve probably masturbated all over that house. Also, if they don’t live alone, they probably masturbated all over that house. Also, maybe don’t sit on that chair.

9. Why they masturbated.

Maybe it was because they were horny. Maybe it was because they had a few minutes to kill and they were bored. Guys don’t really need a reason.

Read more at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a11327989/guys-masturbation-secrets/

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

female sex toys

How female sex toys have evolved over the last 100 years

 

A century of pleasure! How female sex toys have evolved over the last 100 years, from the DRILL-like ‘medical massagers’ used in the ’20s to the pocket-sized options favored today

  • A new video by Glamour looks at the last century of vibrators and dildos – from drill-like ‘massagers’ to barbershop tools and even the famous Rabbit
  • The list goes right up to today where teledildonics – toys that can be operated remotely via a data link – are all the rage 

Valerie Siebert – Dailymail – 10/08/2017

Technology is a wonderful thing that for hundreds of years has affected every aspect of our lives – including our activities in the bedroom.

But while sex toys today can do just about anything – including pleasuring your partner from miles away – things were a little bit different, and a lot less aesthetically pleasing, 100 years ago.

In Glamour’s latest video, 100 Years of Sex Toys, viewers are taken through the last century of bedroom gadgets  – and some of them are downright scary.

Not a great look: Glamour's new 100 Years of Sex Toys documents the last 100 years of  at-times disturbing vibrators, such as this 'beauty aid' from the 1920s

Moving on up: The next decade saw metal exchanged for plastic

Toying around: These 'massagers' were actually seen as medical tools 

The clip begins with the 1920s, introducing the era’s all-metal Polar Club Electric Vibrator, which looks more like a pneumatic drill gun than a sex toy.

The device was one of several marketed as ‘beauty aids’ at the time and used by doctors to treat ‘hysteria’ in women.

For the following decade, vibrators exchanged metal for more plastic-heavy designs such as the Magnetic Massager.

Women in the 1940s apparently got a bit more creative by using a bulky scalp massage machine called the Oster Stim U Lax for Barbers containing a suspended motor. The strange-looking metal device even included an elastic strap to ease handling.

A different point of view: This device was actually a scalp massager used by barbers - but many women found it perfect for another use

A different point of view: This device was actually a scalp massager used by barbers – but many women found it perfect for another use

A step up: This vibrator introduced settings as well as being smaller and faster than its predecessors

The awakening: The 1960s toys include a vibrating cushion and the first toy made for both internal and external use The awakening: The 1960s toys include a vibrating cushion and the first toy made for both internal and external use
 The awakening: The 1960s toys include a vibrating cushion and the first toy made for both internal and external use

Industry legend: Toys began becoming more sleek and phallic as the years when by

With a similar design to the Magnetic Massager, the Wahl Hand-E Vibrator was created to be faster, quieter, and even came with a variety of settings.

For the 1960s portion of the clip, Glamour show off the Vibra Slim sex toy, which looks like an elongated cushion made for a woman to straddle, and the Niagara Hand Unit, which was the first sex toy designed for internal use.

From there, the designs appear to get smoother, more discreet and sleeker, such as the Hitachi Magic Wand, which is still a big seller today, decades after it was mass marketed in the USA in the 1970s.

Anyone who has watched Sex & the City would recognize Glamour’s choice for the 1980s evolution of the vibrator:  The Vibratex Rabbit.

Big hit: The Rabbit appeared in the 1980s but became a best seller after being featured on an episode of Sex & the City

Smooth: The 1990s saw silicone become the top material for its skin-like feel (left), and dildos were even becoming waterproof by the 2000s Smooth: The 1990s saw silicone become the top material for its skin-like feel (left), and dildos were even becoming waterproof by the 2000s
 Smooth: The 1990s saw silicone become the top material for its skin-like feel (left), and dildos were even becoming waterproof by the 2000s (right)

From afar: Teledildonics - toys that can be operated remotely via a data link - are growing more popular these days

New looks: Toys are also becoming smaller and sleeker than ever

Purple, translucent and with multiple over-the-top features, the Rabbit was a leap forward in technology for the bedroom and famously became a huge seller more than a decade after its introduction thanks to its use in the episode The Turtle and the Hare.

Silicone is the big news in the 1990s thanks to its skin-like feel and flexibility, which is why Glamour go with the Magnum Silicone Dildo by Fun Factory for their representation of the decade’s favorite toys.

After the turn of the millennium, ladies were able to enjoy a bit of vibrating self-pleasure in the bath thanks to waterproof dildo designs such as the Jimmyjane Form 6 Vibe. Sleek designs in metal and stone also became popular.

In the present day, vibrators tend to be small and sleek – with some even tiny enough to wear on a necklace – and teledildonics are all the rage.

These devices, such as the OhMiBod Club Vibe pulsate to music or a lover’s voice or can even be controlled remotely through a data link, giving partners the ability to dole out pleasure whenever – and wherever – they like.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4776588/How-sex-toys-evolved-past-100-years.html#ixzz4pj1mgwKZ
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Is YOUR vagina saying yes

Is YOUR vagina saying yes?

Is YOUR vagina saying yes? Sex expert claims her VERY unconventional methods can help women seduce any man they want

  • Sex expert Louise Mazanti has given Femail her thoughts on the art of seduction
  • Danish-born Louise says the vital thing is to ‘listen’ to what your vagina is saying
  • The sexual therapist is currently advising couples on Channel 5’s Make Or Break

Molly Rose Pike – Mailonline – 07/08/2017

A sex expert has made it her mission to give women more confidence in the bedroom – by unlocking what she calls their ‘p***y power’.

Danish-born Louise Mazanti has creat that claims to show how women can seduce any man they want in just an hour.

Her most important tip for unlocking the ‘power’ she describes is to ‘listen to your vagina’ about the sexual experience you want from your chosen suitor.

The London-based relationship expert, who advises couples on the upcoming Channel 5 show Make or Break, also tells women not to try to recreate porn videos, but rather focus on enjoying real sex. 

Here, Mazanti breaks down some of her tips to help you unlock your ‘p***y power’ in the bedroom.

1. Ask yourself: ‘What do I really want?’

Louise says that before anything else, women should think about whether they really want to be with the man they’re trying to seduce, whether he is the right man for them, and if they really want to have sex.

‘Men are very good at being fast in their minds and strong willed and women tend to be a bit more floaty, not knowing what she wants and a bit more compromising,’ she explains.

2. Check in with your vagina: Is she saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’?

Louise says: ‘A woman really needs to know what’s right for her and her way of checking that is feeling what’s going on with her body. What does her body want?

‘Not what her mind is telling her is the best thing, not what would her partner like from her – what does she want? She can feel that way when she feels into her vagina.’

3. If she’s saying: ‘Yes, bring him on!’ proceed to point 4. If ‘Vagina says no’, forget about it

‘Women have forgotten to listen to their vaginas and put up the boundaries that their vaginas are speaking,’ Louise says.

‘When her vagina says yes, go with it, when her vagina says no go with it. That keeps the vagina happy.’

4. Visualise the experience exactly as you want it to be. Fantasise away the best you can!

‘Forget about porn scenarios and come into feeling what do you want, what do you like, what are your desires?’ Louise says.

5. Feel the sensations in your vagina as you’re connecting with the fantasy.

Louise believes women must unluck their ‘p***y power’ in order to enjoy sex and connect with their partners.

She says: ‘A woman’s power is in her vagina.’

6. Walk towards your intended target letting the sensations in your vagina guide how your body moves

Louise believes that the way women walk and carry themselves has a big effect on their success in seducing a man.

7. Look him in the eye, breathe and feel the power in your vagina

The relationship counsellor believes a woman’s connection to her intimate area determines whether she has a good sex life or not.

8. Feel the sexual confidence that arises when you feel the natural feeling of your vagina

Louise says: ‘We are brought up in a culture – and this is worldwide – we [as women] are supposed to be more compromising, more subordinate more accommodating, and men are supposed to be showing the direction and being in charge of that.

‘Women are trained to accommodate, and this is why I’m talking about reclaiming your p***y power because women need to know what they want and set the directions to their own lives.’

9. Maintaining eye contact and the connection with your vagina power, simply say ‘Hello’

‘Don’t be the little princess who’s waiting for a man on the white horse to approach you but show up in the world asking for what you wants,’ Louise said.

‘That’s not just sexuality, that’s career-wise, her friendships, relationships, parents and colleagues – when we have sexual confidence we show up in the world in a different way.’

10. As the experience unfolds, keep checking in with your vagina if she’s saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’

When it comes to having sex with your partner, Louise says: ‘Instead of just thinking of it as what you’re supposed to do or your partner would like, come into your own body.

‘Just come into and process your own body, breathe into your body and go with that moment to moment. Forget abut porn scenarios and come into feeling what do you want, what do you like, what are your desires?’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4761550/Sex-expert-gives-10-step-guide-seduce-man.html#ixzz4p9nQMFIF
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6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

11 things not to do when receiving a blow job | Sub Rosa Lingerie

11 things not to do when receiving a blow job

11 things not to do when receiving a blow job

ALERT: You are not entitled to a BJ.

Some women hate giving blow jobs. Some women love it. But even women who love it will admit there are some not-so-great things guys do that make the experience of blow-job-giving… suck. Here are things every guy can go ahead and stop doing immediately to be more gracious blow-job-receivers.

1. Orgasm without warning.

There’s no way it sneaks up on you that quickly. I don’t believe you. Even if you don’t realise it until you’re going to come in 0.01 seconds, saying, “I’m coming!” will give her 0.01 seconds to close the back of her throat and avoid choking on Niagara Balls.

2. Demand that she get on her knees.

If that position is comfortable for both of you great, but if she is not in mood for getting intimate with your hard wood floors, that lady deserves to be reclining on a sofa.

3. Push on her head like you’re trying to dunk her at the lake house.

People have gag reflexes. You may never have shoved a large object back into your throat, but if you did, you’d know that she is probably focusing really hard on not gagging the whole time, just for your pleasure. Put it this way: Would you rather face-fuck her or not get thrown up on? I feel like probably the latter. Her head is not a sex toy.

4. Fail to make sure your dick meets a respectable level of cleanliness.

“Freshening up” is for everyone. If you’ve been walking around accumulating ball sweat all day and now you want a blow job, visit the bathroom and splash some water around down there. Don’t make her inhale your

5. SILENCE.

Dirty talk. Groan. Say you like that or suggest she play with your balls. Literally any noise you make is better than just sitting there in complete silence, leaving the gross suctiony noises ringing in her ears.

6. Let it keeeep draggiiiiinngggg onnnnnnn.

Some guys have a hard time coming from blow jobs. Some guys just came and now they’re getting a blow job and they’re lasting forever. If you see her shifting positions or developing lockjaw, for the love of god, suggest you switch to doggy-style or something. Also, women, if you’re starting to cramp, you too can and should suggest doing something else.

7. Say “suck my dick.”

Even if you’re saying it to literally ask for a blow job, it has aggressive and insulting connotations. Ask nicely. Might I suggest: “Will you go down on me?”

8. Expect her to swallow.

Semen doesn’t always taste bad, but it doesn’t exactly taste like a caramel vanilla latte either. It’s actually more like throat-coat tea. In that it sticks to your throat. In conclusion: Swallowing cum is not the world’s most pleasant experience. If she doesn’t want to do it, what do you care? You already came.

9. Act like you’re entitled to a BJ.

No. You’re not. If she happens to want to give you one when you want it, lucky you and I suggest you reciprocate. If she doesn’t, move on. In the words of Michael Bublé: Don’t be a baby.

10. Suggest 69ing.

Just don’t. this is not good for anyone.

11. Refuse to go down on her.

You don’t have to keep score like, “OK, it’s the bottom of the ninth, and I’ve had three triples and you’ve only had one double and one triple, so I guess I’m up to bat,” but don’t be the guy who is always on that blow job tip and then will not even introduce himself to a vulva.

Read More at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a10395286/things-not-to-do-when-receiving-a-blow-job/

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

The most common reasons people avoid sex

The most common reasons people avoid sex

Revealed: The most common reasons people avoid sex, from obesity to watching too much porn

  • Shervin Assari is a psychiatry researcher at the University of Michigan
  • He has found that sexual avoidance has a negative impact on general well-being
  • Here, he explains what drives sexual avoidance and why it is treatable 

Shervin Assari – Mail Online – 02/08/2017

Sex has a strong influence on many aspects of well-being: it is one of our most basic physiological needs. Sex feeds our identity and is a core element of our social life.

But millions of people spend at least some of their adulthood not having sex. This sexual avoidance can result in emotional distress, shame and low self-esteem – both for the individual who avoids sex and for the partner who is rejected.

Yet while our society focuses a lot on having sex, we do not know as much about not having it.

As a researcher of human behavior who is fascinated by how sex and gender interact, I have found that sexual avoidance influences multiple aspects of our well-being. I also have found that people avoid sex for many different reasons, some of which can be easily addressed.

The more sex the merrier?

People who have more sex report higher self-esteem, life satisfaction and quality of life. In contrast, lower frequency of sex and avoiding sex are linked to psychological distress, anxiety, depression and relationship problems.

In his landmark work, Alfred Kinsey found that up to 19 percent of adults do not engage in sex. This varies by gender and marriage status, with nearly no married males going without sex for a long duration.

Other research also confirms that women more commonly avoid sex than men. In fact, up to 40 percent of women avoid sex some time in their lives. Pain during sex and low libido are big issues.

The gender differences start early. More teenage females than teenage males abstain from sex.

Women also are more likely to avoid sex because of childhood sexual abuse. Pregnant women fear miscarriage or harming the fetus – and can also refuse sex because of lack of interest and fatigue.

The most common reasons for men avoiding sex are erectile dysfunction, chronic medical conditions and lack of opportunity.

Medical problems top the list

For both men and women, however, our research and the work of others have shown that medical problems are the main reasons for sex avoidance.

For example, heart disease patients often avoid sex because they are afraid of a heart attack. Other research has shown the same for individuals with cerebrovascular conditions, such as a stroke.

Chronic pain diminishes the pleasure of the sexual act and directly interferes by limiting positions. The depression and stress it causes can get in the way, as can certain medications for chronic pain.

Metabolic conditions such as diabetes and obesity reduce sexual activity. In fact, diabetes hastens sexual decline in men by as much as 15 years. Large body mass and poor body image ruin intimacy, which is core to the opportunity for having sex.

Personality disorders, addiction and substance abuse and poor sleep quality all play major roles in sexual interest and abilities.

Many medications, such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs, reduce libido and sexual activity, and, as a result, increase the risk of sexual avoidance.

Finally, low levels of testosterone for men and low levels of dopamine and serotonin in men and women can play a role.

Social and emotional factors – and consequences

For both genders, loneliness reduces the amount of time spent with other people and the opportunity for interactions with others and intimacy. Individuals who are lonely sometimes replace actual sexual relations with the use of pornography. This becomes important as pornography may negatively affect sexual performance over time.

Many older adults do not engage in sex because of shame and feelings of guilt or simply because they think they are ‘too old for sex.’ However, it would be wrong to assume that older adults are not interested in engaging in sex.

What is the solution?

Few people talk with their doctors about their sexual problems. Indeed, at least half of all medical visits do not address sexual issues.

Embarrassment, cultural and religious factors, and lack of time may hold some doctors back from asking about the sex lives of their patients. Some doctors feel that addressing sexual issues creates too much closeness to the patient. Others think talking about sexuality will take too much time.

Yet while some doctors may be afraid to ask about sex with patients, research has shown that patients appear to be willing to provide a response if asked. This means that their sexual problems are not being addressed unless the doctor brings it up.

Patients could benefit from a little help. To take just one example, patients with arthritis and low back pain need information and advice from their health care provider about recommended intercourse positions so as to avoid pain.

The ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ culture should become ‘Do ask, do tell.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4750740/The-common-reasons-people-avoid-sex.html#ixzz4oaX1T1RL
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6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here

How to take your sex life from dull to daring

How to take your sex life from dull to daring

Go commando, have a ‘safe’ threesome and SHAVE each other: How to take your sex life from dull to daring without going the full Fifty Shades (or feeling like a complete idiot)

  • Tracey Cox reveals the sensible way to add kink to your sex life
  • Simple tips include investing in sex toys and even shaving your partner 
  • Gives her advice on keeping experimental sex safe and fun for both of you 

Tracey Cox – Mailonline – 27/07/2017

The best sex encounters in our lives usually aren’t with people we loved for a long time.

The reason why is because it’s harder to have gritty, ‘dirty’ sex with someone we adore.

But by removing all the uncertainty and tension, sex moves from being ‘charged’ to comfortable. Not good.

Outrageously good sex usually has some factors we think of as ‘negative’: guilt, rule-breaking, fear of being caught, forbidden elements, being selfish about our pleasure, doing something we know our friends would be horrified by (well, we like to think so anyway).

This type of sex usually happens in sex-for-sex’s-sake relationships, one-night-stands, affairs and during risky sex with someone we really shouldn’t be with. Usually.

There are some couples out there who manage to balance intimacy and excitement, getting the best of both worlds.

And they haven’t had to compromise monogamy or pool their friend’s car-keys for a spot of old-fashioned swinging to introduce these elements into a loving relationship.

All they’ve done is upped the ‘kink’ factor – and if you want great long-term sex, that’s what you need to do.

It really is possible to push yourselves way out of your comfort zones without feeling like an extra on a porn shoot.

The trick is to capture the sense of ‘kinky’, but still be sensible about it.

Dip a toe in, rather than dive in at the deep end.

Do just enough to get the heart pumping with fear and your brain throwing up thoughts like ‘Should we really be doing this?’ but not so much, you’re plagued with destructive post-event regrets.

Here’s some practical suggestions to teach you how, moving from relatively tame to more exotic.

Buy some sex toys

Sex toy shopping is one area where women are far more adventurous than men.

Yes, it is shopping (which explains a lot), but it’s also because men see things like vibrators as ‘replacements’ rather than additions to a sex life. They’re not.

Sex toys are as the name suggests – things to play with for a bit of fun! And have fun you will!

Go online and have a browse through the various categories, especially ‘couple toys’.

You’ll find everything from vibrating penis rings to vibrators you wear during intercourse.

Hand over the remote

Remote controlled sex toys like love eggs can turn a trip to the supermarket into the sexiest thing you’ve done in years.

Insert one high into the vagina then pass the remote to your partner. They are then in control of when the egg vibrates, hitting the switch just as you’re reaching for loo roll.

Shave each other

How or if you wax, shave or trim is highly personal – that’s why it’s so erotic if your partner does it for you.

Add a blindfold

Here’s something safe to pounce on – you know what it is and what to do with it!

You can make a blindfold out of anything – a scarf, a vest, your sleep mask – and it’s a simple way to turn mundane foreplay into erotic play.

Blindfolds are great for shy people: remove the eye contact and you remove the embarrassment.

Google ‘Nine and Half Weeks food scene’ if you’re looking for inspiration on what to do once blindfolded, and how to strike the right mood between light and sexy.

Put on some ‘sex shoes’

Most of us have a ‘thing’ that puts us instantly in the mood. One woman I know has a pair of ridiculously high heels that she puts on naked whenever she wants sex with her partner.

‘I feel sexy in them, he’s instantly turned on and it’s a clear signal of ‘I’m up for it’ that can’t be misconstrued,’ she says.

Make a movie

Though do a test run video first to get the right angle (nothing worse than watching a hot sex session afterward and hating the way you look!).

Store it somewhere safe (like a Dropbox account) and your kids won’t get a surprise they won’t forget when they next pick up your phone.

Go commando

Book a restaurant that has booths or long tablecloths, wear a floaty skirt or dress, tell your partner you’re about to do something that will impress them, maintain eye contact and remove your knickers while sitting at the table.

It’s easier than you think to do it without attracting attention (even easier in a maxi dress) especially if you use your partner’s body as a shield.

If that’s far too brazen, slip off to the loo, pop off your pants and put them in your handbag and show your partner what’s in there when you come back.

Up to you whether you take it further and indulge in some erotic activity underneath the tablecloth.

I suggested this to a woman who wanted to boost a naturally low libido but was quite shy and she loved it.

Ironically, people with low sex drives tend to enjoy and benefit more from ‘riskier’ sex sessions than those who are highly sexed.

They need more of a kick to get started and respond well to being pushed out of their comfort zone.

Masturbate in front of each other

It’s by far the best way to get what you want in bed – they get a ringside seat and can see exactly what speed, pressure and technique you use.

You could also buy a portable, full-length mirror and watch yourselves have sex from different angles.

Tie-up sessions don’t need to be serious

Of all the ‘kinky’ games couples play, tie-up and bondage is the most popular, so put this top of the list of things to try.

To make it less Fifty Shades, use everyday objects to tie each other up – like socks, scarves or old stockings – rather than serious looking handcuffs.

Being tied up appeals because it increases the suspense of sexual pleasure: you can’t control when or how or what the other person does to you.

This handily removes sexual guilt: you can ditch the ‘nice girls don’t’ thing because you’re ‘forced’ to enjoy it and you can stop worrying about when it’s your turn to reciprocate.

If you’re in the power position, you get to dominate proceedings: power has always been sexy.

Spanking doesn’t need to be extreme

Following closely behind tie-up games in the popularity stakes is spanking.

Most don’t take it to the extreme (aka the ‘training’ that Anatasia needed before her sessions in Fifty Shades), starting off playfully and seeing where it takes them.

It’s easy to test the waters: wait until you’re next having sex then playfully slap them on the bottom, seeing what effect that has.

If they laugh but seem intrigued, try a slap that stings a little more.

It’s not a huge leap from there to say, ‘Hey, why don’t we try that sometime?’

Later, you can alternate a spank with your hand with a different texture like a wooden spoon or the back of a hairbrush.

A safe way for three to play

It’s not just men who harbour secret fantasies about women with women,

Plenty of women indulge their bi-curiosity by having solo sex sessions to same sex fantasies.

For most monogamous couples, though, having a threesome in real life seems too dangerous and fraught with potential problems like jealousy.

They’re right: threesomes do often backfire and not necessarily for the reasons you think.

One couple I worked with for a TV show had serious problems after she agreed to indulge his life-long fantasy of having a threesome with another woman.

He’d been hassling her for years and she got so fed up, she gave in.

Her husband answered an ad to find a likely candidate and they invited her around for the evening. ‘From the moment I said yes, I could see him panicking,’ the wife told me.

‘I felt the opposite – quite excited by it all.

‘When the woman turned up, we got on really well. My husband hated that – he wanted to be the star.

He told me he didn’t want to go ahead with it but I did. I had a great time. He was miserable because he couldn’t get an erection and was left out.’

After that night, ‘all arguments ended with him accusing me of being ‘secretly gay’ and humiliating him’, she said.

He couldn’t get past it and they have now separated.

A safer way to indulge a same sex fantasy is to visit a strip or lap-dancing club.

You could simply watch from a safe distance or you might decide to get a lap dance while he watches.

Just being there feels wicked, giving you both the thrills without the fall out.

If you both fancied a threesome with another man rather than a woman, recreate the sense of another person in bed with you by using a dildo (a penis shaped toy that you insert).

A swinger’s club without the swinging

Get the thrill of swinging without the downside by taking yourselves off to a swingers club and watching but not participating.

Choosing a club, planning what to wear, imagining all sorts of scenarios, finally turning up, giggly but excited – the anticipation of doing something terribly daring has already injected more excitement into your relationship than you’ve seen since the new Waitrose opened up down the road.

And you haven’t even ventured inside yet!

Once you do, you’ll find clubs are usually quite dark and anonymous and it’s relatively easy to hang back and observe without being asked to participate.

How to find the right one?

Do an online search for ‘swinger’s club’ and you’ll be spoilt for choice.

Don’t be scared to email or call first to ask what ‘rules’ there are (most clubs are OK with you just watching but some aren’t).

Lots ask you to join as a member but it’s a legal formality – you can sign in as Posh and Becks for all they care.

Expect to see a lot of snogging (and more) and a general air of seediness.

Which is, of course, precisely why you’re there.

Stay as long as you’re having fun, leave if it starts to feel uncomfortable and don’t drink too much.

SIX MUSTS FOR TRYING NEW THINGS 

Talk through exactly what will happen, being as specific as possible, so there are no surprises.

Set rules and stick to them: how far are each of you prepared to go and under what circumstances?

Decide on a ‘safe word’ which means ‘Stop now’. Make it something you’re definitely not going to say accidentally.

Remember your relationship is more important, at every moment, than the experience you’re having. Constantly check in with each other.

Don’t be afraid to use your ‘safe word’ to stop the experience if you feel upset. It doesn’t mean you’re prudish, just prudent.

If your partner gets upset, stop everything and go to their emotional rescue.

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6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

6 Reasons Men Like Women Wearing Heels In The Bedroom

Below are some very good reasons why you should put on some sexy heels in the bedroom.

1) Fantasy

High heels add a bit of sexy to any outfit, the higher the better 🙂 Heels are often a fantasy item for men in the bedroom and also feature heavily in the videos they watch. Tap into this for a little extra spice in the bedroom and reap the rewards.

2) Body Shape

High heels elongate your legs and make your bum look pert. This gives a sexy silhouette that will make you feel sexy and confident and will most certainly turn on your partner.

3) Stockings and Heels

Combine your high heels with a sexy pair of stockings or pantyhose for a killer sexy look. Again this features heavily in erotic videos and will definitely let your man know that you are up for some sexy time.

4) Confidence

Making yourself taller and sexier in the bedroom will make your confidence sky rocket and no doubt lead to some naughty sex. Confidence is often cited by men as the most sexy attribute of a woman.

5) Be a Little Bit Slutty

The feeling of wearing heels in the bedroom will make you feel naughty. Such a simple outfit choice can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel about yourself and the way your man looks at you.

6) Some is More

Wearing outfits and heels in the bedroom is a simple way to mix things up. Variety is a sure fire way to keep your sex life healthy and interesting. Why not buy yourself some lingerie and heels that are only for bedroom use……

 

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

9 Great Reasons to Wear High Heels for Pole Dancing

Pole dancing shoes are specifically designed for the job and include a huge range of platforms, pumps, sandals, boots and wedges. The most popular shoes are a high platform heel varying from 4 inches to 10 inches. Often the platform height is proportionate to the heels height to ensure they are comfortable and safe to walk in. The range of types and colours is huge and can be seen and purchased here.

Below are 9 great ways that pole dancing shoes can improve your dancing performance and make you look good whilst you are doing it:

  1. The weight of the shoe improves momentum when spinning on a pole
  2. The heel and platform can absorb shock and vibration
  3. The smooth rounded toe can ease the friction when sliding on the floor
  4. The insoles are very well padded meaning they can be worn for long periods of time without discomfort
  5. The material can help your grip on the pole
  6. The heel of the shoe improves your posture
  7. They make your legs look longer and more toned when off the floor due to the additional weight
  8. The weight increases the intensity and difficulty of your workout
  9.  Finally……..they look really really sexy!!

Wear Pole Dancing Shoes

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes Sub Rosa Lingerie

Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes

If you have never purchased a pair of pole dancing shoes before or you are looking for some tips on how to ensure you buy the right shoe for you then you have come to the right place. Below are some useful tips and things to consider when purchasing.

Pole Dancing footwear can help you elongate your legs, increase your height and make your butt look extra pert. There are literally 1000’s of styles to choose from (See our full range here) ranging from a 4in heel all the way up to a 10in heel. They have now become a staple for professionals and bedroom amateurs alike 🙂

Pole dancing shoes are high-heeled footwear often made from a transparent material. They sometimes contain novelties such as flashing lights, coloured liquid or even fake fish. Materials used to create the heel design include polycarbonate, PVC, lucite and acrylic resin. The transparency may be used deceptively with a ballerina style to give the appearance of standing on tiptoe or en pointeA more romantic style resembling Cinderella’s glass slipper has been designed for social events such as the prom but generally designs are more provocative with very high heels.

Choosing your height and style

The majority of our heels are between 6 and 8 inches and often come with a platform to make them easier to walk in and to really elongate your legs. Professionals often wear a heel with a platform as they can be used for ‘clacking’ and they can be more comfortable to wear than shoes without a platform.

The number one consideration when choosing your shoe, especially if you will be using them to dance or workout in is choosing a shoe that fits comfortably. We recommend shoes with an ankle strap initially as this reduces the risk of the heels coming off when performing on a pole and also are very comfortable. We have also been informed by our customers that when being used for a lot of floor and pole work that shoes without buckles and spikes reduce the risk of injury and damage to the pole. Please see our range of pole dancing footwear with ankle straps here.

Walking with your high heels

Many people worry when buying their pole dancing shoes that it will be difficult to walk in them due to the heel and platform height. There is no need to worry as walking in them is far easier than it looks. The height that you should consider is the difference between the heel height and the platform height. So for example if the heel height is 7in and the platform height is 3in the difference is 4 in. This is the same as the average heel height of normal flat soled high heeled shoes and therefore should be no more difficult to walk in. Pole dancing shoes often have thicker heels and footprints than regular heels and so are much more stable. To ensure maximum comfort whilst wearing your shoes all Pleasers are made with a thick foam and rubber insole with rounded edges.

We recommend when Choosing Pole Dancing Shoes for the first time that you try a 6in heel with a platform and ankle strap to ensure maximum comfort.

See our full range of pole dancing shoes here