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Are YOU wearing the wrong bra size?

Are YOU wearing the wrong bra size?

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Have you got a bulletproof relationship?

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Does YOUR relationship have chemistry?

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Experts reveal the ten lingerie mistakes that EVERYONE makes

Are YOU wearing your underwear wrong? Experts reveal the ten lingerie mistakes that EVERYONE makes (including tightening the clasp and owning too few bras)

Are YOU wearing your underwear wrong? Experts reveal the ten lingerie mistakes that EVERYONE makes (including tightening the clasp and owning too few bras)

When it comes to buying underwear many of us will have our habits in place from when we purchased our first bra.

But while we may be comfortable with our choice in underwear it turns out that many of us our prone to making mistakes.

According to lingerie site Sparkling Strawberry there are ten common mistakes that women make when it comes to selecting undies.

From unflattering underwear to bra clasps that are plenty of things that can go wrong when underwear shopping.

Thankfully Sparkling Strawberry have created an infographic revealing the simple solutions to all ten of the nation’s lingerie faux pas.

1) The Baggy Bra

50% of women have complaints about how their brassiere fits. This is often because bra cups are too baggy, leaving you vulnerable to a cheeky nip-slip.

Solutions: Measure Up! To avoid any bra-ma drama, know your true bra size. Get measured in a shop or thoroughly study online size guides.

Mind the Gap – With a correctly sized bra, the cups should fit with no gaping at the top.

2) Quad Boob

The opposite problem to the baggy bra, is the quad boob. This occurs when bra cups are too tight, causing a muffin-top effect which appears to double your assets.

Solutions: Loosen Up – Try hooking your bra on a looser clasp and adjusting the straps. Go Big – Failing that, invest in a slightly bigger cup size.

3) Boring Undies

We’re all guilty of dismissing the adventurous and luxurious lingerie in favour of plain cotton pants.

Less than 20% of women feel brave enough for thongs.

Solution: Don’t Neglect Negligees – Be more confident with your curves and go for the lingerie you wouldn’t usually buy.

4) Owning Too Few Bras

It’s important to have an array of bras to help with various outfits. Here are our top four bra must-haves to complement any outfit.

The essentials kit: T-shirt bra, Plunge bra, Sports bra, Multi-way bra

Also, breasts change size due to weight gain or loss and periods. The average woman will wear six different bra sizes throughout her life.

Solution: Go Shopping – Treat yourself to a few good quality bras in various styles and sizes, just to be on the safe side.

5) Hoarding Bras

Another common mistake is that women are clinging to old bras for too long.

Solution: Let It Go – After 8 months, your bra will be stretched and worn down. It’s then unfortunately time to part ways.

6) The VPL

The age-old problem of the Visible Panty Line is feared throughout the land. Watch out for the VPL, especially when stepping out in a skin-tight dress.

Solutions: Go Commando – Apparently 1 in 10 women admit to going out while bare down there.

Thong It – If you’re not one of these fearless females, the simple solution is to try a thong.

Seams Invisible – Failing that, a pair of seamless knickers will be your faithful friend.

7) The Muffin Top

The dreaded muffin top is again a result of the skin-tight dress, it is simply an unflattering belly bulge over your knickers.

Solution: Tuck Your Tummy – This problem is often due to too small knickers. To fix it, a trusty pair of body-sculpting or high waisted knickers will give you a slim silhouette.

8) The Tightest Clasp

It’s bad for bras if you hook on the tightest clasp immediately after buying. The tighter clasps are there to help when your bra eventually loses elasticity.

Bras stretch 2-3 inches in their lifetime.

Solutions: Cut it Some Slack – Try hooking your bra on a looser clasp and adjusting the straps.

Take It Slow – Only start using the tighter clasps after at least 1 month.

9) Not Washing Bras Often

As much as we’d hate to admit it, on average the majority of women wash their bras only 6 times a year!

Solutions: Wash Often – It’s recommended to wash your bras every 2-3 wears.

Hand Wash – When washing, it’s best to hand wash your bras.

Keep It Cool – If you must use a washing machine, keep it to 30 degrees.

10) Staying Away From the Seasonal

While year-round underwear is a safe investment, there’s nothing like Christmas themed knickers or a special set on Valentine’s Day to get you in the spirit!

Solution: Stock up on Stockings – Treat yourself to seasonal lingerie for Valentines, Halloween, and Christmas.

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Martha Cliff – Mail Online – 04/01/2017

10 rules every couple MUST follow to keep the romance alive

The 10 rules that every long-term couple MUST follow in the bedroom to keep the romance alive and avoid someone straying (including fantasising about other people)

The 10 rules that every long-term couple MUST follow in the bedroom to keep the romance alive and avoid someone straying (including fantasising about other people)

As anyone in a long-term relationship knows only too well, things between the sheets can often become non-existent.

But according to one relationship expert, there’s ten essential rules that every long-term couple should follow in the bedroom to keep the romance alive and prevent one partner straying.

Speaking to FEMAIL, relationship and sexpert, Dr Jane Goldberg, author of My Mother, My Daughter, My Self, said: ‘Pay attention to the fact that much of the pleasure of romance and love-making comes from the brain.

‘It is not just a body experience; it is a brain experience, too. The mind is the biggest sex organ. So, the following rules apply to the sexual encounter being a body/brain/mind experience.’

1. Just as you want to buy a birthday present that suits the person getting the present, love-making has to fit the person: While the physical pleasure is intensely a sense of self, if the experience is going to be good, it has to be a together experience.

2. Remember foreplay is different for men and women: Women want emotional foreplay before they even hit the bed. For the woman, talking and getting close emotionally is as essential a foreplay as stimulating touch. Men want more physical foreplay. Both men and women must pay attention to this gender difference.

3, Women generally have a slower arousal time than men: Again, differences need to be understood, accepted and enjoyed.

4. Don’t assume that what worked with your last partner will be the same with your new partner: We are all unique individuals, and like different things from one another. The brain thrives (and learns) with novelty.

5. Don’t assume that what worked the last few times with this partner will work this time: Not only are we unique individuals, we like different things at different times. The brain loves (and needs) novelty.

6. You don’t need to curtail your fantasy life while having sex: You don’t need to feel guilty about imagining there is another person in the bed with you. Fantasy is an important and pleasurable function in the brain. It can spice up your sex life enormously.

7. Determine whether sharing your most fun fantasy life with your partner will spice up his/her sexual pleasure, or not: This is sometimes an intuitive thing. If you’re into playing footsies, or something more kinky, and your partner is not, asking directly may be a turn-off. But if you know your partner is sexually adventuresome, ask away. Plan out your sexual fantasy escapades and have a code word for ‘no go.’

8. Kissing is not just for mouths: Kissing traditional non-erotic zones can be a nice turn-on. Kissing your partner’s fingers, for instance, one by one, is a signal of readiness.

9. Remember, sex is all about tension and tension relief: The build-up is as important as the release. The tension build-up can be from subtle cues: soft whispering; suggestive body movements. One great way to build up tension is to be suggestive in public. The no-no places, like a museum, or a sophisticated cocktail party, are great places to give indications of later-readiness.

10. Play fun games: One woman decided to make a trail of her partner’s favorite chocolates from the front door to the bedroom door that he would see as soon as he came home from work. Then, she posted a big arrow on the bedroom door, with a note: ‘Enter at your own risk.’ She was lying on the bed, undressed, waiting for him. But the next time, the trail led to the dining room. And then to the living room. The coup de gras was the attic.

TOP TEN TIPS

1. Fit to the person

2. Foreplay is different for both sexes

3. Women have a slower arousal time

4. What worked on old partner won’t on new

5. Mix things up

6. Don’t curtail fantasies

7. Spice things up

8. Kissing everywhere

9. Sex is about tension relief

10. Play games

Expert reveals six surprising resolutions that can boost your love life

Could a sex schedule improve YOUR love life? Expert reveals six surprising resolutions that can boost your love life (and being LESS spontaneous could help)

Could a sex schedule improve YOUR love life? Expert reveals six surprising resolutions that can boost your love life (and being LESS spontaneous could help)

Already struggling to stick to those ambitiously worthy New Year resolutions?

Here’s six surprising and realistic sex resolutions to take the pressure off and revitalise your sex life – all backed up by research.

And surprisingly, setting a sex schedule and sticking to it instead of waiting until you feel ‘in the mood’ could be the key to boosting your love life.

Have less spontaneous sex

Yes, you read it correctly! Instead of waiting to feel magically turned on enough to rip each other’s clothes off (easy at the start, not so realistic a few years in), plan sex sessions.

A UK study found married couples who had at least one date night per month were less likely to break up.

And US sex therapist Ian Kerner is backed by many prominent sexologists who believes planned sex means better sex.

‘You have to stop saying “we’ll definitely do it tomorrow, but let’s just cuddle as a symbol of our undying affection for each other tonight” and start scheduling sex on your calendar. It’s the only way you’ll ever get back into doing it regularly,’ says Kerner.

Yes it goes against all you ever thought about sex – that it should happen spontaneously – but how far has that got you, really?

Think of it like this: if you wanted a dinner party to be extra special, would you plan ahead or just see what’s in the fridge on the night?

You’d plan it, of course. Beans-on-toast style sex is fine but it’s not going to thrill you if that’s all you’re having day in, day out, week in, week out, year in…

Once a week is enough

A significant 2016 study found couples who had sex more than once a week were no happier than couples who did it weekly.

Once a week appears to be the magic number for long-term sexual happiness – with new evidence (from a university in Qatar) suggesting too much sex can actually make you miserable, leading to a decrease in desire and enjoyment.

Five minutes is fine

An Australian study that looked at how long penetrative sex actually lasts with most heterosexual couples came up with this answer: 5.4 minutes.

The results ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes but that was the average time for intercourse, across couples of all ages and stages.

Sex sessions don’t have to last a long time to qualify as good, satisfying sex.

Don’t worry about getting old

A Canadian study found older adults (40 plus) are having more sex and better sex than they had when younger.

Older couples are getting more creative and adventurous with more than half surveyed saying they are more up to trying new things now than they were a decade earlier.

Have an orgasm any way you fancy

We’re moving away from research that firmly implied there is only one way for women to orgasm – through direct stimulation of the tip of the clitoris (the part you can see).

Researchers (in Montreal) found orgasm can actually be caused by stimulation of several hot zones in the body: the external clitoral gland (as above), the internal clitoral bulbs (concentrated around the G-spot), the cervix and non-genital areas like the nipples.

The age-old argument of ‘clitoral versus vaginal’ orgasm appears irrelevant since women seem capable of having orgasms by stimulation of everything from their lips and nipples to ears and neck.

Everyone else ISN’T having fantastic, effortless sex ten years in

A study of 1900 people (in Canada) found those in long-term relationships who were the most satisfied with their sex lives were those that accepted it takes hard work and effort.

The least satisfied?

People who thought if their partner was ‘truly right’ for them, good sex would automatically happen.

Have to say, I was personally particularly pleased with this result.

When I wrote my first book in 1998 (Hot Sex: How to Do it), I had more than a few people tell me sex books weren’t necessary: we were somehow born great lovers and all you needed was the right partner.

Don’t me wrong, the right partner helps enormously!

But you need to keep trying new things, honing new skills and continually seeking inspiration to keep it all ticking along nicely long-term.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4084956/Could-sex-schedule-improve-love-life-Expert-reveals-six-surprising-resolutions-boost-relationship-spontaneous-help.html#ixzz4UnTsnl6b
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Tracey Cox – Daily Mail – 04/01/2017

January 9 is the day people are most likely to try and start an affair

Data reveals January 9 is the day people are most likely to try and start an affair (because they want to reclaim their ‘freedom’ after Christmas)

Data reveals January 9 is the day people are most likely to try and start an affair (because they want to reclaim their ‘freedom’ after Christmas)

New Year’s resolutions: get fitter, read more, quit smoking… have an affair?

Data from thousands of cheaters has found that they’re most likely to try and start an affair in the New Year… and this year it’s on January 9 to be precise.

Gleeden, a dating website for people who want to cheat on their partners, has revealed that their site is the busiest on the second Monday after Christmas.

For 2017, that means January 9 is the day your partner is most likely to have wandering eyes.

The site, which boasts 3.3 million members, had revealed that user activity always increases in the new year.

‘On Monday the 11th of January 2016, the site also recorded an increase in registrations of more than 320 per cent,’ a Gleeden spokesperson revealed.

‘This trend is observed throughout the month of January.’

The results were mirrored in a survey of 13,000 of Gleeden’s users, many of whom said they were more active on the site in January.

When asked ‘Do you think you’ll be active on Gleeden at the beginning of the year?’ 7 1 per cent of people answered yes.

When asked why this was, 52 per cent of people said it was because they wanted to ‘regain their freedom’ after the holidays.

Solene Paillet, the director of communications at Gleeden, says that it’s not surprising that there is a sharp increase in people using their site in January.

‘By registering with Gleeden or spending more time on the online platform, members are seeking a means to inject a little excitement into their everyday life,’ Ms Paillet explained.

‘Routine may weigh down on individuals, or be rather oppressive when it follows extended periods devoted to family life. This is the result of a legitimate human need: to have fun and think of oneself.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4086344/Data-reveals-January-9-day-people-likely-try-start-affair-s-want-reclaim-freedom-Christmas.html#ixzz4UnEkdMml
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Lauren Ingram – Daily Mail – 04/01/2017